Blissful union of Mr and Mrs Francis Bassey

                                                                     

May 25th,2013 will ever remain bodacious in the lives of Elsie Iwatt(now Mrs Elsie Francis Bassey) and Francis Bassey. The day finally came and the moment this love-birds did decided to formally recognised as man and woman. Guests throng the occassion with smiles all over their faces. The bride remained aghast while her groom was seen so gazed on her beautiful face one wonders if Francis actually saw the tears of joy that trickle down our blessed and graceful look. So kindly indulge: 

"THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES" (PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THIS)

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It seems that a lot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world.

6 Kind Of Women Every Man Should Avoid

Relationships are good. The various Holy books recommend marriage, and most men want to settle down with someone good. However, if you are a woman and unable to find a man who consistently enjoys your company, then there’s a problem. I’ve tried to categorize some character traits commonly found in women which tend to keep the prospective men at bay. If you fall into one or two of these categories, sister, it just might be time to make a change.

What To Do When Your Wife Is Disrespectful

There are two things in life that can make a man or break him.

The first is his choice of a wife. The second is his Job. Your choice in marriage can determine your happiness and how long you stand to live on earth.
Today we are going to focus on the difficulties that may arise at home when a man marries a wife that suddenly becomes disrespectful.

But first let’s talk about the prospect of living with a wife that is very respectful and deeply loves her husband.

If you have a woman you truly love and who does the same for you, your marriage becomes a bliss. You always look forward to going home to see your wife and child(ren).

And when you are going home, you get some gifts for your wife and the kids. As soon as you are home, your wife receives you with a warm embrace, plants a kiss on your lips and usher you to the bathroom to wash off the days’ ‘stickiness’. When you finish with your bath, a delicious meal is already waiting for you at the dinning table.

You finish consuming your Dinner with your wife and kid(s), you spent some time with your family watching TV and playing with them. Shortly, thereafter, you go to bed and your wife gives you a passionate and very intimate time in bed.

Feeling refreshed and full of life the next morning, you kiss your wife and kid(s) goodbye and go to work. It repeats itself every day.

And yes, there are certain times you may have a misunderstanding with your wife, but when it happens, it is resolved amicably and without a fight and without your kid(s) knowing you even have some problems.

Now why would you ALWAYS rush home from work everyday to meet your family? The answer is simple; Because your wife makes you happy.

This is a marriage many people are enjoying today.

However, what if you have a disrespectful wife who you find difficult to control, how do you handle her?

For instance, let’s say you are a young man married with a kid. Whenever you spend some time at home, you find out that your wife is always nagging, and quarrels with you over petty things. In fact she even insult you sometime and tries to dictate everything you do even with your own money. To worsen it, she doesn't like your family and friends.

If you have a marriage like that or something similar, then it’s time to work seriously on the marriage.

I will never advise a divorce for any troubled marriage except on the ground of adultery. Hence the root cause of the problem must be identified so that it can be attacked headlong.

Here is my possible advice for such a problem with a disrespectful wife.

1. Try to get your wife to talk to you so you can list down all the complaints she has against you.

2. Find out if there are areas you have been failing as a husband.

On the first note, when you list down her complaints, do not make any of her complaints trivial, take them serious. Ask yourself, “Why would my wife be so angry and hurt by this issue?” Try to understand her reasons for behaving in a certain way and be open minded when you do so.

If she is the type that do not like your family and friends, try to find out from her what/why exactly she doesn’t feel happy seeing them. Could it be that she is retaliating to a treatment received from these people, you need to find out.

Sometimes, a woman’s behavious in the area of the man’s family may be when she feels the family of the man is having more influence over her marriage than she is, and this can be attributed to the man when he starts taking and heeding the advice of his mother or any of his relative in the marriage.

As a man, you should understand that once you are married, your responsibility falls in your own family and you have to satisfy your wife. The needs of your relatives becomes secondary. That is why the Bible says that a man and wife are one – closer than the parents of the man and wife.

Secondly, find out if there are areas you have been inadvertently failing as a man. The best way to do this is by asking your wife. Create a friendly atmosphere to allow your wife discuss the issue no matter how embarrassing it may be, let her say her mind.

I guess the secret to having a successful marriage is frequent communication, bringing every nuances and misunderstanding to the marriage table everyday and resolving them without wasting time.

Truth is, a woman’s emotion is difficult, but if you understand them, you will have a wonderful marriage. That is why a friend of mine describes a W.I.F.E as meaning (Why Isn’t Forever Easy). Marriage can be a haven of joy and peace, but there are other factors that could contribute to a healthy relationship between a man and his wife. Here they are:

Same religion

Having the same budget

Congruent goals and plans

Creating time for relaxation and vacations

Making out time to spend with each other weekly.

If you are married, using the tips above will help you to have a measure of success in your marriage. 

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Are Ini Edo And Stephanie Okereke Pregnant?

Fans have been speculating that Nollywood actresses, Ini Edo-Ehiagwina and Stephanie Linus are pregnant; no thanks to their conspicuously protruding stomachs.


The star actresses were spotted at Ibinabo Fiberisima‘s birthday party held in Lagos, recently.

‘I Was Raped Before I Turned 17′ – Foluke Daramola

Foluke Daramola

Popular Nollywood actress Foluke Daramola has revealed she was raped before she turned 17.In recent interview with punchng.com, the actress was asked about her first crush and sexual encounter, and she explained that at 17 she fell in love with her first crush, a certain Seun Olomofe but before then she had been raped.

Who tells the biggest lies in relationships – men or women?

In a relationship, people more often than not tell lies for reasonably good reasons.

Read and drop your comments at the end.

Humble Apology

Swet Dim

After reading this touching piece from a good friend I realised that personally I didn't say HAPPY NEW YEAR to you reading this piece. If after reading the said lines and you feel different, it's understood as you are entitled to your own opinion. 

Swet Dim this is your touching words:

"Hey,am not happy with you,you just remember to wish me happy new year.Long time,i enjoy your write ups,it keeps me going.Thanks and miss ya my friend."

So share with me HAPPY NEW YEAR though a bit late.

MAKING MARRIAGE WORK..

The three-strand cord is a picture of the power that takes place when two people agree for something in line with God's will for them.

THANK YOU...FROM US(ECLECTIC CREW)

                                                               

Firstly, we at Eclecticxclusive use this opportunity to thank all who stood with us last year-read and appreciated our efforts. We wont forget those who cared enough to ask about our posts and those who commented too.We had to do some restructuring to serve all better this year. So don't be surprise at the new aspects you will see here as we intend to spread our tentacles.To that effect we will have new contributors,the duo of famous Prof Kalu Uka and Dr. Stephen Inegbe who are reputed in their endeavours. So this is our big THANK YOU.